The truest form of natural beauty is positive thinking because it makes you beautiful from the inside out.
“A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.” - The Twits, Roald Dahl
More often than not, we have a choice in how we choose to approach and react to life and its everchanging scenarios. Many people actively focus on these choices deeming their influences in mentality to be swayed by the law of attraction, faith… or simply, being a good person! Well, let's just say that not only have studies shown that positive thinking can impact your life quality, but your life quantity too (1). According to Harvard University, a study performed on 70,000 women between 2004 and 2012 found that women who were optimistic had a significantly reduced risk of dying from several major causes of death — including cancer, heart disease, stroke, respiratory disease, and infection, compared with women who were less optimistic. Physical health has shown to be greatly linked with mental health. If that’s not enough reason to give living life with a positive outlook a chance, then keep reading and you’ll see that only good can come from trying.
“What you think, you become. What you feel, you attract. What you imagine, you create.” - Buddha
Positivity will improve your relationship with… yourself.
Imagine the most inspiring person in the world. Now look in the mirror, and pretend that that person is in fact you. “Me?!”, you ask. Well yes, what better person to be your 24-hour, personal motivator than your very self! How much more confident and productive would you be, if you could go a whole day replacing all your negative thoughts of self-doubt, pity and loathing with self-love and affirmation. Your new attitude will help you achieve what you thought was the impossible, uptake endless new opportunities, open multiple doors and help you look and feel amazing because “there is nothing more beautiful than a woman that believes she is beautiful”. Here are some pointers to get you started:
● Write down your goals and aspirations - seeing it on paper can inspire you. ● When you achieve something, reward and congratulate yourself - you’ve earned it! ● What’s the worst that can happen? If you’re feeling anxious about something, write down the worst possible outcome of a scenario (1) to realise that in fact, there is nothing to worry about and ‘what if’s’ are generally a waste of energy. ● ‘Don’t make a mountain out of a molehill’ - keep things in perspective and always try to see the positive in a situation rather than focusing on the negative. ● Speak kindly to yourself. “If you wouldn’t say it to others, don’t say it to yourself”. Try giving yourself a compliment every day. ● Be humble and appreciate all that you have been given on a regular basis. ● Don’t compare yourself to others. “Nobody's better than you, and you are no better than anyone else” - Mary Mihalic ● Believe you can and you will. The only person stopping you is yourself - fear is not real.
Positivity will improve your relationship with … others.
Nobody likes a Debbie-downer. By being someone who puts positive words and energy into the atmosphere, people will feed off your energy and bounce it back. What you give you get back. The theory is also that people attract likeminded people. And feel-good people, well… they make you feel good! You will end up surrounding yourself with amazing personalities and forming quality relationships in all areas of your life. Additionally, by making others feel great, it has been proven that you, in turn, will feel great (2). A life of good vibes, positive communication and great relationships will open up opportunities for success in both your personal life and at work.
● Give genuine compliments - if you think something nice, say it! ● Give constructive comments rather than unproductive negative ones. Solutions are better than problems. ● Smile - you will seem more approachable and will make someone else’s day better, hopefully starting a chain reaction! Smiling is a universal language that can immediately set the tone for a conversation. ● Offer to help. You’d be surprised by how well karma works. ● Put yourself forward for new opportunities, you never know what’s behind the door until you open it. ● Listen to hear not to respond. ● Give others the benefit of the doubt, don’t judge a situation/person before you know the facts. ● Eliminate negative sources of information (e.g. from social media) and negative people from your life.